What’s Your ‘Mother’ Story?

By Andrea Goeglein

Everyone has or has had a Mother. Not everyone shares stories of love about their mother.  Many have ‘motha’ stories they need to transform in to Mother Stories.  The greatest gift you can give yourself this week of Mother’s Day is to recraft any negative stories you hold about your Mother, into stories of your personal growth.

A simple guideline for transforming a negative story to a personal growth story is to recraft the story with no shame, no blame and no rationalization.

Example:

My mother was so screwed up and insecure that she married every guy who asked just to make sure she had medical insurance.

Recrafted version:

My Mom may not have directly taught me to be independent, but I have learned to use her life as an example of what it looks like if I don’t take responsibility for myself and my actions.  I love my Mom for doing the best she could with what she knew how.

Recrafting.  Becoming aware and shifting your perspective.  Acting ‘as if’ you are grateful until you can truly say ‘I am grateful for my Mother.’

Happy Mother’s Day to all.

P.S.  Dr. Success Challenge:  Even if needing to recraft a story about your Mother is not something you need to do, find a person in your life where you hold a negative story and recraft it for your personal growth. The greatest gift you can give yourself is the gift of forgiving.

Andrea Goeglein, Ph.D.
About the author

Andrea Goeglein is part organizational psychologist, part entrepreneur, and all about success—your success. She understands both the pressures you face and the dreams that inspire you. Andrea merges her experience as a business owner with her training in Positive Psychology to provide effective, efficient and challenging personal development products and services. She combines an emphasis on objective assessment with an approach that is always powered by your spirit and guided by your goals. Her professional development offerings are based in theory and backed by direct business knowledge.

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