The Hey, Boss Lady podcast is about women and how they will use power differently now that they have more of it.
Our initial intent was to gather women from a diverse spectrum of businesses to ask one simple question, “Now that women have more power in business, how will things be different?” The first six segments’ unexpected theme was the men, some life partners, some business associates, some fathers, who believed in them before they believed in themselves.
On December 8, 2020, at 12 noon PST, you are invited to join us for a Facebook Live Launch party and have the opportunity to meet some of our guests live. When all works well, you can potentially ask them a question you may have about your own chosen path—details about the podcast and party in my blogs between November 27 and December 8. For now, I want this blog to be all about you.
In my Incompletes blog from last week, I gave you three questions to work with. Today I want to share with you a technique I used to review and appreciate the impact my husband, Richard Goeglein, had on my life. The occasion of my writing the following piece was our 40th wedding anniversary. We are quickly approaching our 41st anniversary in December. It has been fun to re-read this, especially after 2020 gave us the opportunity to spend more time together than we may have had in all those 40 plus years!
So here is the exercise. Think of someone (you choose) who has impacted your life career. Create as many sentences as possible with, “Because of you….”. When you are done, what story have you created for yourself about someone who has helped you create the life you have today.
It is with great love that I share what I wrote about Richard.
Because of You
December 22, 2019
Forty years ago, and today, traditional wedding vows really covered it for me.
“In good times and in bad; in sickness and in health; till death do us part.”
Clear and to the point. Just like me, and how I like to communicate.
Say it. Do it. Done!
And from best I can tell, we have done a good job of keeping those vows. Yet, Because of You, I live a life I never expect and never imagined.
In good times and in bad….
Because of You, I found the courage to go back to school. You may or may not remember, but you signed the first tuition refund program at W. R. Grace for me to start attending college at night. That solved the problem of coming up with $300 per credit fee – which I would not have done. That one action started a lifetime of learning.
Because of You, I took my first exempt job. I was so afraid to lose my overtime, and you said to me – and what I have heard you say to so many over the years – “If you don’t take the chance, you will always be stuck. If you take the chance, you don’t know how high you may rise.”
Because of You, I left New York. Until the moment I left in August 1979, I really had never thought I would do that.
Because of You, I started owning businesses instead of working for other people. You stood by everything I came up with, then and now.
Because of You, we had Dana when we did. In good times and in bad, that is all on you!
Because of You, Dana got to have her grandparents with her for all of her growing up years. You paid for every airline ticket. You paid for their medical for 35 years and counting. You welcomed them even when they had not been so welcoming at the beginning of our marriage.
Because of You, I learned that “in sickness and in health” did not just mean our sickness and health but whoever I love too!
Because of You, I have been in the presence of presidents – one I loved and one not so much.
And Because of You and your business dealings, I learned what “in good times and in bad” really means.
But most of all, Because of You, I learned that money can always be replaced, so go for love and integrity. Each time you have been at a crossroads, you always did the right thing, no matter what it cost you. You taught through your actions. There is no price on integrity. There is no price on love.
We are fortunate at this moment not to have tested the “till death do us part” part of our 40-year-old vows. So, I will update them with very modern hashtags that will get us through…
…Till Death Do Us